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Self-awareness is knowing how I feel and what I want.

Increasing self-awareness opens unexpected possibilities.


author:  Daniel Clary Webb, producer


Here's a great article on understanding and developing self-awareness:

Verywell Mind: What Is Self-Awareness? Development, Types, and How to Improve It

If I can name my feelings and my desired experiences (a skill inherent in emotional intelligence), my prefrontal cortex — the part of the brain that manages self-regulation, strategic thinking, decision-making, and language centers — is engaged in my perception.  My awareness is more integrated and embodied.  My choices are better informed, less impulsive.

"The prefrontal cortex (PFC) intelligently regulates our thoughts, actions and emotions through extensive connections with other brain regions."  —NIH

Some wisdom traditions describe two fundamental states of awareness -- fear (resistance to what-is) and love (unqualified acceptance of what-is).

It is profoundly empowering to know where my attention and intention are focused and how I'm motivated, moment to moment.  How much by resistance?  How much by acceptance?  These questions offer a useful perspective for gaining self-awareness.

With an ability to speak about my inner experience, I can stand outside an impulsive identification with my limbic brain's physical-emotional reaction to the discomfort of my situation.  (See Feel ... and Listen for more on this.)

With self-awareness and the courage to name my sensations and emotions (how I feel) and my desired experiences (what I want) in a specific situation, I can invite you into my inner experience in a way that resonates with values we have in common as human beings.  I'm less likely to get lost in "my story" and the drama of our conflicting strategies. 


Consider these two fundamentally different states of felt-sense perception.



Fear

  • Resists experiencing my present what-is
  • Tries to use discomfort as a way to motivate myself
  • Focuses energy defensively
  • Dissipates energy
  • Focuses on the dark -- an absence of light
  • Sees only our differences
  • Isolates or attacks;
    withdraws from creative engagement
  • Unconsciously manifests what is feared
    (Let that sink in for a moment.)

Love

  • Accepts and celebrates what-is as the perfect situation from which to create
  • Manifests opportunities for desired experiences
  • Mobilizes energy
  • Focuses energy creatively
  • Focuses on the light
  • Sees what we have in common
  • Engages with courage;
    affirms that the benevolence of the Universe is sufficient
  • Consciously creates what is appreciated


I alone have responsibility for where and how I focus my attention.

I always have a choice, regardless of my conditioning.

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