"If only I knew what to say, ... "
Let's talk about that.
This simple process is inspired by personal experiences and the principles and practices of collaborative conversation (NVC), mindfulness, and emotional intelligence.
The Return-to-Love Process guides you to deeper rapport and empathy with someone you care about during a difficult situation.
In RapportTalk™,
you dialogue with "Chad" about your challenging relationship situation.
Chad acts like a mentor for practicing emotional intelligence.
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You tell "Chad" about a relationship situation you're experiencing.
Chad replies with a few observations and questions.
You sit with what Chad has said, then you answer back with your truth.
You'll be surprised to see where this goes if you're open and honest with Chad.
Each of Chad's responses offers a [ Show more ] button.
Clicking [ Show more ] displays observations or questions that go a level deeper.
At some point in your conversation, Chad may understand your relationship and situation well enough
to offer you a script for a collaborative conversation with your practice partner.
Your Return-to-Love script may facilitate a transformative experience into mutual understanding and empathy ...
as others have experienced with surprise and delight.
At your request, the Return-to-Love Process™ delivers custom, scripted conversations for you and your partner to enact.
These consistently kind, truthful scripts help facilitate transcendent experiences in your most meaningful relationships.
Our small team of experts in collaborative conversation has trained our language model
with generative emotional intelligence™ (GenEI).
A scripted conversation with your partner addresses your specific situation and supports the evolution of your relationship over rough terrain.
For examples of other people's relationship situations, experiences, and conversations, see Browse Situation Examples.
The Return-to-Love Process improves any type of relationship.
It's astounding how helpful this process is for couples and family members.
That's the focus of this introductory version of the application.
"Before RTL, I thought, 'He's pissing me off! He isn't listening!'
When we read the RTL script with each other, it was so unbiased, so positive, so respectful,
I actually cried as we came to a better understanding of each other so quickly. How could I go from so cold to so warm so fast?!"
-- "Julia R.", White Salmon, WA (about her experience using the first-ever RTL script), June 2023
"Most of all for me, it left me with a new frame of mind when it comes to dealing with those potentially dramatic situations.
Since our second script, we've had two small disagreements.
Each time, they're over before they escalate.
"Something about talking it out with the help of the script gave me this other frame of mind
that I can turn to rather than falling into an emotional defense and reaction.
I've never felt so powerful during charged interactions.
Because I'm not reacting emotionally, my partner's emotional head of steam subsides and we talk."
-- "CM", Elma, WA (the second person to experience the Return-to-Love Process), September 2023
"My partner and I read two RTL scripts with each other and talked through our troubling situation.
Something that bothered us enough to threaten the relationship became a simple topic for conversation.
The Return-to-Love Process was responsible for keeping us together.
Oh, and we're married now."
I'll bet somewhere along your journey, you began a practice of appreciating things as they already are
and focusing less attention on how you think they should be.
The Return-to-Love Process™ is a natural continuation of that evolution.
If you're new to personal growth and evolving a deeper sense of appreciation for the reality you're manifesting right now as it is,
you may find Loving What Is: The Work of Byron Katie to be a helpful practice for reclaiming your power and joy.
Using The Return-to-Love Process™ and performing an AI-scripted conversation together with a conversation partner will enable you to encounter yourself and your partner as whole people, without the distraction of value judgments.
When you bring an attitude of confidence, humility and vulnerability
to a conversation with your partner, you're more likely to inspire that openness in them, too.
What you just read may sound like advice.
Let's get right into the extraordinary experience of how the Return-to-Love Process™, which has been trained to guide you toward respect and empathy,
can facilitate an experience you've never had before with your conversation partner.
Be advised: If you're like most people, these wake-up activities can occasionally raise an impulse to disconnect
— a desire to close down and withdraw from your own deeper awareness — an awareness that you're feeling vulnerable.
Being able to feel that discomfort means you've hit "paydirt".
Once you can observe and acknowledge the sensation of resisting a discomfort, your newfound awareness liberates the energy tied up in resisting.
You reclaim your power by being willing to feel vulnerable. Who knew??!!
Every meaningful relationship eventually encounters a challenge around our human differences.
Each such encounter is an opportunity to deepen trust and intimacy ... if we treat our partner with kindness and respect.
But how do you do that when your primal brain is screaming at you to fight, flee, freeze or fawn?
You engage in a collaborative conversation, scripted for your specific situation by a surprisingly clever language model we've trained in generative emotional intelligence™.
When you approach your conversation partner in a way that opens their mind and heart to you,
it makes all the difference in how you fulfill your desired experiences with each other in mutually satisfying ways.
Let's acknowledge a hard truth about all relationships:
When your experience of connection feels compromised,
your primal brain grabs your attention without the slightest warning,
as if there's a threatening animal in front of you.
The Kraken inside you drives you to fight, flee, freeze, or fawn, impulsively.
(It doesn't ask your permission.)
In the blink of an eye, your compassion and creativity disappear.
Participants have told us the mindful, scripted conversations they experienced in their Return-to-Love Process
gave them unexpected safety and comfort with each other
as they traversed rough terrain, addressing their differences creatively.
New possibilities present themselves.
Experts in collaborative conversation have trained a large language model in generative emotional intelligence™ and fine-tuned it
so it can support your situation, specifically.
You've never had an experience like this.
The experience you have with your conversation partner is a real experience
— a surprising experience.
(I'd tell you more about the simplicity of the experience you'll have, but you wouldn't believe me. ;-)
What's really cool about it is how short a time it takes
to get a script and begin a helpful conversation you wouldn't be capable of having without RapportTalk.com.
If you can read lines in a script, you can do this.
If you're confident this process has at least a 50% chance of improving your relationship in some way,
will you invest 20 minutes in your own process to find out? (It's free during the introductory period.)
To begin your own Return-to-Love Process™, you'll describe to the system a challenging situation you're having with someone you care about.
One minute later, you receive a scripted conversation to practice together. (You'll probably e-mail it to yourself to share.)
Enacting the script with your conversation partner and hearing their words is a real experience,
not merely advice or a thought exercise.
When you enact the script, both of you are practicing and demonstrating collaborative conversation skills.
It feels good. It's surprising.
It's free during our introductory period. Later, it will be globally affordable.
(Caveat: Some learning may occur.)
According to members who've invested 20 to 40 minutes in their process, a scripted conversation can open you both
to a seemingly impossible experience of mutual understanding and empathy within your fraught situation.
If you have particular cultural or personal sensibilities, for example your gender identification or your lifestyle, THAT you want the process to consider,
you can enter your preferences before you start building a conversation.
at the top-left of every page.